Blurt SelfCareAThon: Day Three – Boost

Evening!! Welcome to Day Three of the #blurtselfcareathon, and don’t forget to follow the action on Twitter! Here goes!

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I would like today’s prompt to help me give a shout out to all people who, like me, are in their early twenties, probably just out of uni, and for whom life seems to happen around them, rather than to them.

School peers are having children, some with multiple already, some are married and have a happy life with good jobs, some already have their own house.

Yes, they’re doing great, but so are you.

It’s hard to keep your head up in situations like this. Is hard to keep going on your own path when seemingly the path has no perceivable direction. I want to reassure you. I want you to know that I think you’re doing great. You’re sticking to your plan. Your plan. No-one else’s. Life doesn’t have a template. There is no right way. To steal a popular phrase from the youths, you do you.

Cos you’re doing great.

Until next time x

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Blurt SelfCareAThon: Day Two – Obstacles

And here we are again, day two of the #blurtselfcareathon, to find out what it’s all about check out my first post here! On with the show!

Obstacles:

Obstacles I feel have a rather negative connotation in a lot of today’s society, they are seen as something to be overcome, things that wear you down in order for you to have to recover, things that get in the way. And yes, some obstacles are this. Anxiety, that’s a huge obstacle for me…there was one point in my early teens when I couldn’t even answer the home phone after a distressing incident of someone breathing heavily down the receiver when I had answered it. Pathetic I know.

Big payments, unexpected payments, unwelcome events, these are all examples of things that have not only happened to me, but to all of us, and these are the unpleasant obstacles.

But I don’t believe that all obstacles are bad.

Education is an obstacle to overcome, but you come out the other side with more knowledge, and the ability to arm yourself against some of the evils of the world. Obstacles can sometimes give you the benefit of time, can make you stop and think more about the thing in front of you and approach it in a calmer more structured way producing, in the end, a better outcome.

Obstacles happen to everyone, and I want you to know that you’re not alone and you can always talk to people about any obstacles you face. But one thing to also take away from this is that for all and any type of obstacle, you recover stronger and better than you were before, no matter how long it took to overcome, you’ll beat it, and the people around you can help!

Until Next Time x

Blurt SelfCareAThon: Intro & Day ONE – 10 Things About Me!

So I’ve been inspired by Carrie Hope Fletcher’s most recent blog post about the #blurtselfcareathon. I saw her post and thought about what a great idea it was, and since I’m fairly new round here, it would also be a good opportunity for us all to get to know each other.

Blurt is a foundation specialising in mental health awareness and they are currently running the self-care-a-thon, a 30 day project to look after yourself just a little bit more.

Admittedly I’m two days behind but I’ll go right through the 30 days and just end it two days later than everyone else 🙂

If you want to join in the conversation on Twitter you can follow The Blurt Foundation or search #blurtselfcareathon. And let me know if you take part so we can do it together :)!!

Anyway, on with the show!! :

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DAY ONE – 10 Things About ME!

  1. I get incredibly anxious about small, insignificant things and yet I’m weirdly calm when it come to big important things. I find that strange. It goes deeper than that but that’s the short and sweet answer.
  2. I work at a Castle! Which is as cool as it sounds I promise.
  3. I LOVE LOVE LOVE books. In case you hadn’t caught on to that yet 😉
  4. A lot of the music I listen to is either film/game soundtracks or from musicals.
  5. I have a little dog called Danni who is a terrier-cross and the cutest thing on the earth bar none.
  6. Last year I had the privilege of travelling
    to Australia, it is the most amazing thing I’ve ever done.
  7. A few months ago I completed a Master’s Degree in History! (currently waiting on the results though *gulp*).
  8. I played the Flute for 10 years and the Saxophone for 6, and I still play both occasionally.
  9. If I could live in Pajamas, I absolutely would.
  10. I’m obsessed with the quiz show Pointless…..yeah I wouldn’t even ask if I were you 😛

So that’s it! Day one complete!! *level up* let me know if you’re taking part, and don’t forget to check out The Blurt Foundation on Twitter 😀

Until Next Time!! x

 

Week Eight – 19/03/18 to 25/03/18 – Introspection

Hello! Me again!! I’ve just returned from a truly excellent Pokemon Go Community Day Event (yes I play Pokemon, yes, I’m aware that you probably think it’s stupid/childish/waste of time but I’m not stopping for anyone, it gets me out of the house and I get exercise). It was really nice to get out into the town and meet all the players ad generally just to meet up and have three hours where we all play a game and forget about everything else in life. I loved it.

This week I want to talk about introspection and how I seem to have done a lot of it this week.

Sometime I find that it’s a bad think to think about your own self too much, it can get you down and just make you hate things about yourself, but there are times when I think it is needed. Every so often I like to take to time to remind myself of the things I do have and how lucky I am in most aspects of my life. Yes, most of the time I’m not particularly happy about it, but sometimes I take a step back and see that actually I do have some things to be happy about.

In terms of reading this week I’ve done pretty badly. I started a book at the beginning of the week and I’m barely 50 pages in, maybe I spent too much time introspecting haha!!

But the thing I’m taking away from this week is that I’ll get where I want to go in my own time, and not according to anyone else’s schedule. It was a good thing to learn, and something nice to come out of a not great week.

Hope you’ve all had a great week and I’ll see you next time!

 

My Favourite TED Talks!

If you’re like me, then when you’re sat at home in the middle of a YouTube spiral, at some point you’ll reach a TED Talk. We all know TED Talks, they’re great! Informative, reassuring, educational, and occasionally, brilliant. 

There are TED Talks that you watch, and then there are the talks that you actually pay attention to and learn from, or pay attention to and enjoy. And so here today I am going to gift you, the reader, my favourite TED Talks of them all.

If I’m honest I’m doing this rather selfishly in the hopes that one of you lovely people will recommend YOUR favourite and I might find another gem of a talk in amongst all the ones on the internet. So PLEASE let me know what your favourites are….after sticking around to see mine of course! so here we go!! 

1) Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator’ – Tim Urban

I can’t count how many times I’ve watched this talk. It’s by far my favourite, and Tim Urban is excellent in this. I actually found it worrying how much I was able to relate to this, it certainly gave me the kick I needed in the last year of uni! 

2) ‘I’ve Lived as a Man & a Woman – Here’s What I Learned’ – Paula Stone Williams

Genuinely eye-opening about the gender gap, this woman is inspiring and speaks SO well! She certainly makes you think about the way the world work. And as a bonus her talk is also witty and well delivered. I love it so much!! 

3) ‘When Money Isn’t Real – The $10,000 Dollar Experiment’ – Adam Carroll

A truly amazing experiment on young people and money, and something that taught me so much about money without me even knowing it. It’s a great experiment and a fun TED Talk to listen to and watch, but also one which I think people today need to learn something from. Again, eye-opening!!! Truly worth the watch!

4) ‘This is What Happens When You Reply to Spam Email’ – James Veitch

A true classic for the last one on the list. If you haven’t heard of James yet, then you need to go watch all his videos IMMEDIATELY. Without doubt James is one of the funniest and most intelligent individuals I’ve come across in the past few years, and his talk is one I watch just for amusement value really, but again it has a strong message about life on the internet. I promise you that of all the TED Talks on this list THIS is definitely the one most worth watching. It’s hilarious!! 

And that’s it! I hope you find something you like, and if you have a favourite TED Talk then I would love to hear from you because I’m running out of good ones to watch! So let me know in the comments! 

Until Next Time! 

Limbo

So I’m at a weird stage in my life at the moment. There are some good things going on but also a few things that have made me a little sad.

A few weeks ago in a twitter discussion I was part of I was talking about how YA books rarely cater towards the early-mid twenties age bracket. And I think this is because for so many people it’s just a really weird time in their life. For one thing, for me and the people around me, life is really getting started. We’ve left school/college/university, we’ve got our degrees, we’re back living at home and grafting at low paid jobs until we get that one offer of a real honest to god full time adult job that will suddenly make everything so far seem worthwhile.

People are moving back home and so friendship groups are splitting up, some people I know are getting married, some have been married a while and are having children, most are now moving into their own homes. And I sit here, I look at my life. Yes, I have a job, I have some savings, but I’m nowhere near getting a house. I’m not even close to having a relationship with anyone. In fact at this point I’m pretty much convinced that I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. And yes, that might be dramatic, but I’m also an extremely hard person to get on with, and I don’t go out much. So to meet someone is pretty hard.

Today I was going to tell my ex that I miss him and that now I’ve finished my degree I can give a relationship the time it needs, if he was willing to have me. We only broke up because I felt I wasn’t being fair not being able to give him time. But before I got there he told me that he’d met someone else. And I’m not going to lie it did hurt a little. But really I have absolutely no right to wish he’d waited, he can do what he wants of course!! After all I was the one who ended it!!  But I can’t help feeling that everything is going so right for everyone else, and nothing is happening for me.

I’m 22, and I know it’s totally dramatic for me to be feeling this way at the age I’m at, but it is hard when you look at the lives of people around you who seem to have everything together. I think it’s one of the reasons that people don’t write about this age….it’s so gosh darn messy!! Which is strange because I’ve never felt more like a young adult than I do right now.

I’m also aware that I should quit moaning and be grateful that I’ve had education, and a roof over my head, and a means of making money, but it doesn’t stop the sinking feeling every time that engagement/new house/ new baby post pops up on social media.

Who knows, I might get over it, but for now it is getting me down, and I’m going to work hard to change it.

Until Next Time x

Week’s Six and Seven – 05/03/18 to 18/03/18 – Polar Opposites

I missed a week….SORRY!!! It got busy. And hectic. And absolutely exhausting. But I’m back and boy have I got stuff to talk about. This week has been full of freak outs, extreme happiness, profound sadness, and abject tiredness due to all the emotion that has been going on. 

In my day to day life I usually try to keep a pretty even mood, I make sure that I take precautions not to be rushing around, not to get stuff wrong, and so I don’t have the huge emotional swings that come with being angry/tired/embarrassed. And I’m pretty much successful, most of the time I’m pretty even tempered and I don’t have strong emotions about anything. 

But I’d be lying if I said I was always even tempered. I’m not, I’d be a robot if I was, and these last two weeks have certainly tested my carefully constructed brain. Firstly, last week was International Women’s day, which was an awesome and empowering time, and it really did make me happy to see all of these women owning the day and spreading positivity. Another reason for the mood change has been the fact that I’ve worked a ridiculous amount of overtime this week, and so I’m EXTREMELY tired, and I, like many people, aren’t as good at keeping my temper down when I’m tired. 

Then, the holy grail of all days. Markus Zusak announced the publication of his new book. And honestly I completely lost it. I was so so so happy. Like many of you out there, The Book Thief has genuinely played a huge part in my life, and the prospect of a new book by this gem of an author really just made me ecstatic for a LOOONG time, which was awesome but also exhausting at the same time. Emotions make me tired. 

So amazing happiness is quickly followed by today, a day where I’ve just felt totally crap. All day. For no apparent reason. Ain’t life great. 

A quote by Stephen Hawking that I think is relevant here (in two ways since today, sadly the world lost his brilliant mind) is this: 

‘ Quiet People Have the Loudest Minds’ 

And I think that perfectly sums up the way I’ve felt these past few days. 

In days to come I’m looking forward to a few days off work, doing some shopping and relaxing a bit. Recharging if you will. I’ll watch some good TV and read some good books, and I’ll be back to my normal balanced mind before work starts again on Sunday.

And yes. I already pre-ordered ‘Bridge of Clay’, and I can’t wait. 

Until Next Time xx